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How To Comfort Yourself

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The other week, a patient of mine told me he’d recently come to the realization that he has a tendency to become almost embarrassingly needy in certain situations, something he attributed to several early childhood experiences.  When he was three, he told me, his five-year-old sister died of cancer.  He doesn’t specifically remember her dying but does remember being left alone with a maid for a year and feeling abandoned.  His father, an alcoholic, left his family soon after.  He counts as his first memory seeing his father’s suitcase lying open across a bed. Continue reading…

When You Don't Like Yourself

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Some people have the misfortune to have been born to abusive parents who belittled them and prevented them from developing a healthy self-esteem.  Others are born predisposed to view themselves in a negative light because of their physical appearance, a disability, or for no reason anyone, including themselves, knows.  Research has consistently supported the notion that it’s difficult to be happy without liking oneself.  But how can one learn to like oneself when one doesn’t? Continue reading…