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How To Be Great

When I was a little boy—around six or so—I used some markers to draw a picture of a skyscraper-lined city street with cars rushing past (posted to the right).  I showed it to my parents, who I vividly recall gushed with praise and awe as only parents do.  I don’t remember her exact words, but [...]

The Importance Of Good Influences

While I was growing up, my brothers (I’m the eldest of four boys—I know:  my poor mother) often chided me for being so much like my father.  I suppose it was inevitable that I would be; firstborn children tend to be rule followers (if you believe in the significance of birth order) and I fit [...]

The Danger Of Having Unrealistic Expectations

My wife and I vividly remember the anesthesiologist’s statement: “You may feel a little pressure.” She spoke the word gently, as if to imply that’s how it would feel, and we believed her.  Epidural blocks, she explained, don’t numb the sacral nerve roots that deliver sensation from the pelvic floor so my wife [...]

How World Peace Is Possible

Photo: Jayel Aheram

When I was in grammar school learning about World War II, I remember thinking how grateful I was that society had finally matured to the point in the intervening years that war no longer ever broke out.   Today I can hardly remember what bizarre thought process led me to conclude that [...]

Why No Job Can Ever Be Perfect

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I love what I do.  Being a doctor challenges me every day to think critically and creatively, to learn new things, and to make the vast machine that is the American medical system run smoothly.  The relationships I’ve formed provide me great power to do good:  my patients trust me like no [...]

How To Forgive Others

Photo: Hamed Saber

The other day I found myself thinking about what would happen if as an adult I encountered some of the children who terrorized me when I was in 7th grade (an experience I wrote about in an earlier post, Breaking Free Of The Past), wondering if I’d be able to forgive [...]

The Importance Of Having A Mission

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We’re all meaning-seeking creatures, rousing ourselves up out of bed on different days for different reasons—one day to pass a test, the next to help a troubled friend, the next to run errands—but always motivated to participate in each day by some kind of purpose.  But if we plumb deeply enough into our hearts, [...]

Letting Go

Last week my 18 month-old son, Cruise, started Montessori preschool.  The first three days my wife and I dropped him off he cried so hard he could hardly catch his breath, his chest heaving in great racking sobs.  By the fourth day, however, we were listening to him repeat his teacher’s name every few minutes [...]

The Three Realms Of Confidence

In 1979, as I was about to enter seventh grade, my parents moved our family from one suburb of Chicago to another where we soon discovered anti-Semitism ran rampant. Changing schools for any boy of thirteen is traumatic enough, but finding myself persecuted verbally and physically for belonging to a particular religion made the transition [...]

The Double-Edged Sword Of Attachment

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Several weeks ago, my now 15-month-old son developed a fever to 103.5 F.  Usually a champion sleeper, that night he woke several times with a frenetic look in his eyes and a jerkiness to his movements that frankly unnerved me.  The heat coming off his little febrile body almost made me start sweating [...]