Comments on: How To Manage Anger http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/2009/10/04/how-to-manage-anger/ Reflections of a Buddhist Physician Mon, 06 Feb 2012 22:49:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: SA http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/2009/10/04/how-to-manage-anger/#comment-43709 SA Wed, 29 Dec 2010 22:49:04 +0000 http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/?p=3851#comment-43709 I find it really hard to "vent" my anger with out talking to someone. The only thing is... it's so negative that I hate "dumping" my thoughts on someone else. Sometimes I write out what I'm thinking in a word document and delete it...that helps a little. But it can be so consuming until I get to "vent." Do you have any suggestions? <blockquote><em><strong>SA</strong>: I agree that venting your anger at the person toward whom you feel it is rarely constructive, either to you or the relationship you have with the person who "made" you angry. I put "made" in quotation marks because my suggestion is this: there are, it seems to me, four basic reasons why we get angry (to review them, please refer to <a href="http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/2009/10/04/how-to-manage-anger/" rel="nofollow">How To Manage Anger</a>). Often, when you understand the root cause of your anger in any given situation, that helps to relieve it. I'd suggest when you find yourself angry that examining its root cause may help. Alex</em></blockquote> I find it really hard to “vent” my anger with out talking to someone. The only thing is… it’s so negative that I hate “dumping” my thoughts on someone else. Sometimes I write out what I’m thinking in a word document and delete it…that helps a little. But it can be so consuming until I get to “vent.” Do you have any suggestions?

SA: I agree that venting your anger at the person toward whom you feel it is rarely constructive, either to you or the relationship you have with the person who “made” you angry. I put “made” in quotation marks because my suggestion is this: there are, it seems to me, four basic reasons why we get angry (to review them, please refer to How To Manage Anger). Often, when you understand the root cause of your anger in any given situation, that helps to relieve it. I’d suggest when you find yourself angry that examining its root cause may help.

Alex

]]> By: How To Admit You’re Wrong « Happiness in this World http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/2009/10/04/how-to-manage-anger/#comment-42350 How To Admit You’re Wrong « Happiness in this World Sun, 26 Dec 2010 19:50:07 +0000 http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/?p=3851#comment-42350 [...] sense of power when I feel powerless (one of the four uses of anger I detailed in a previous post, How To Manage Anger), and nothing makes me feel more powerless than when I demonstrate incompetence.  The thing about [...] [...] sense of power when I feel powerless (one of the four uses of anger I detailed in a previous post, How To Manage Anger), and nothing makes me feel more powerless than when I demonstrate incompetence.  The thing about [...]

]]> By: How To Forgive Others « Happiness in this World http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/2009/10/04/how-to-manage-anger/#comment-7695 How To Forgive Others « Happiness in this World Sun, 06 Jun 2010 12:11:47 +0000 http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/?p=3851#comment-7695 [...] often reluctant to let go of our anger.  As I argued in a previous post, How To Manage Anger, the second of the four main reasons people get angry is to achieve or regain control.  If we [...] [...] often reluctant to let go of our anger.  As I argued in a previous post, How To Manage Anger, the second of the four main reasons people get angry is to achieve or regain control.  If we [...]

]]> By: How to respond to anger http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/2009/10/04/how-to-manage-anger/#comment-1984 How to respond to anger Mon, 16 Nov 2009 06:53:17 +0000 http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/?p=3851#comment-1984 [...] The point offered here useful for marital situations is this: HOW TO DIFFUSE ANGER IN OTHERS [...] [...] The point offered here useful for marital situations is this: HOW TO DIFFUSE ANGER IN OTHERS [...]

]]> By: Linda Davis http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/2009/10/04/how-to-manage-anger/#comment-1550 Linda Davis Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:11:25 +0000 http://www.happinessinthisworld.com/?p=3851#comment-1550 Very helpful article. Thanks for posting this, Alex. One way to diffuse your anger is to discover the underlying causes of it. If you listen to the causes of your anger, it'd be easier for you to rationalize your emotions in a calmer way. You should pay attention to the first signs of anger so you'll be able to get hold of your emotions. Very helpful article. Thanks for posting this, Alex. One way to diffuse your anger is to discover the underlying causes of it. If you listen to the causes of your anger, it’d be easier for you to rationalize your emotions in a calmer way. You should pay attention to the first signs of anger so you’ll be able to get hold of your emotions.

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