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The Effective Use Of Silence

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When I was a resident I was given the opportunity to participate in a series of seminars designed to improve my teaching skills.  In one discussion group the discussion leader asked us a question to which no one had an immediate answer.  He waited.  And waited.  And waited.  Finally, one of my colleagues offered an answer that happened to be incorrect but that sparked a lively discussion we all found quite valuable.

After the seminar, I had a chance to talk with the discussion leader and remarked how unfazed he’d seemed by the silence that had greeted his question, which had seemed to stretch on for what I’d figured to be almost five minutes.  He replied the silence had only lasted 30 seconds. Continue reading…

The True Cause Of Cruelty

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In seventh grade I once found myself in the school gym locker room changing before class when a group of my classmates began bullying a boy named Pino for having breasts (a condition called gynecomastia that sometimes occurs in young boys at puberty, usually resolving spontaneously).  I failed to rise to his defense, too afraid at the time to have their malevolent attention redirected toward me, but remember feeling awful for Pino and wondering how anybody could be so effortlessly cruel. Continue reading…

How To Heal Injuries

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Everyone gets hurt.  Not everyone heals at the same rate, however—not because of inherent differences in genetic makeup and physiology but rather because of differences in behavior (as well as the type and severity of the injury).  Two of the most common misconceptions about healing relate to which behaviors actually promote it and what exactly constitutes a reasonable time course over which it should occur.  Every injury, of course, is unique.  What follows is meant to be neither comprehensive nor exhaustive but rather to introduce some general guidelines for healing injuries—none of which are intended to substitute for your own doctor’s advice regarding any specific injury from which you may be suffering. Continue reading…

The Three Realms Of Confidence

confidenceIn 1979, as I was about to enter seventh grade, my parents moved our family from one suburb of Chicago to another where we soon discovered anti-Semitism ran rampant. Changing schools for any boy of thirteen is traumatic enough, but finding myself persecuted verbally and physically for belonging to a particular religion made the transition so awful that by the end of the year my parents felt compelled to move our family back to the original suburb from which we’d come. Continue reading…